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Ten Things I Think, But Do Not Say, When People Say "I'll Tip In The App"

 Pwomise, Daddy, pwomise?

As that's a binding verbal contract and you can tip before the ride is over, I'm just going to lock the doors and wait for you to do that.

Lies make Baby Jesus cry.

Please, Kind Sir? I've Been Ever So Good!

The curse of Allah be on him if he is one of the liars.

Great. Now I've got to write down where you live and come back with protestors if you don't. And that giant inflatable rat smells.

OK, but just the tip.

In John 8:44 we learn that liars are "the children of your father the devil and you love to do the evil things he does." Give me cash now, or tip in the app before you leave the car, if you want to avoid eternal damnation.

How much, exactly? I'll be following up. (cracks knuckles)

The spreadsheet that I keep tells me that 93% of the time, you won't. Surprise me.

Moments from the lawless cities

More of these, I guess

I drive at night, generally. I consult during the day, I'm not a morning person, I like to run when its cooler and quieter out. But this also means I see stuff which, if you piece them together, just create a narrative of society falling apart. Such as:

> An impassioned screed for Alex Jones on a Wawa bathroom wall, answered by diametrically opposed profanity. The next day, it's aggressively bleached.

> Pulling up to a light with a clear no turn on red sign, no hours limitations. Stopping. Driver behind me swerves to the middle lane and drives through the red.

> More or less routine pot smell for passengers, especially the ones that make me wait to get in the car.

> Pulling up to a yellow light turning red. Braking to stop. Driver behind me swerves to middle, runs the red.

> Dirt bike riders without headlights or helmets, driving in packs, disregarding all traffic laws, on sidewalks and everywhere else.

> Male passenger enters the car without wearing a shirt, dictates directions counter to the address or GPS directions, and insists that I pass a stopped police car, rather than consider another route or waiting a minute to make sure we're safe to pass.

> Going to a truck stop bathroom, only to have the guy in the next stall decide it's the time and place to watch his TikTok feed without headphones.

> Routinely getting passed on residential highways posted for 55 and 65 miles per hour by people doing 1.5 to 2X that speed

There's a lot of theories going around as to why this kind of bad behavior is on the rise. Income inequality becoming more strained due to the pandemic and inflation. Climate change stress giving way to a form of nihilism. Police and courts doing less due to the pandemic, body cam footage, or just the simple knowledge that the Uwalde footage showed, which is that cops prioritize going home at the end of the shift over anything else. Racism and classism piggy-backing on any weed odor. And so on.

All that I can tell you from the front lines is that you can tell any story you like. 

But that the negative one always seems to be an easier one to start.

Information

Here's something from poker, which I also do, enough at times to start to think that life is just poker.

In poker, players can sometimes speak about getting "information", which can be something as simple as showing cards you don't have to show, making a small bet that gets swamped by a bigger one, or calling a bet even when you think you are going to lose, because you just need to see the opponent's cards that much to guide your future play. When information is gathered and used correctly, you can use it to put together a "book" in your mind as to what this opponent will do in a future hand, and use it to increase your chances of winning.

In rideshare, the driver has the option to rank the passenger at the end of the ride. Anything that is three stars or less means the passenger isn't going to be in the future consideration set for the driver. I could be ten feet from you, taking ride requests, and you could be making one... but the ap isn't going to pair us together again.

If you do this job long enough, and stick to a consistent area (recommended, it's safer and America's pothole problems are not getting better -- you want to know where they are, and that's trial and error, especially at night)... rating most of your passengers badly is going to hurt your future earning potential. On some level, every 3-star rating is costing the driver money, or at the very least, future money.

Which might lead you to think that I never do it, and, well, nope. If the ride is taking me far away to a place where no one requests rides, and you aren't entertaining or sympathetic and don't tip... well, 3 stars is my way of preventing this experience in the future. The same story goes for if you've decided that rideshare exists for you to make as many stops and run as many errands as possible. The ap allows it, but it's a really bad earning time for me, and I have to assume you do this routinely, and I don't want to be part of that routine. Enjoy your next driver; I'm tapping out. If you also are problematic in other ways, such as odor for future passengers, long wait times, etc., I'm making the calculation that having you out of my consideration set is going to improve, not degrade, my earning potential. Demotivate me enough that I just want to go home? 3 stars. All of this is a judgment based on incomplete information.

(Side note: Why 3 stars and not 1? Well, a 1-star rating is way more likely to put me on the radar of the problem passenger, and those folks tend to lie about my performance because I was so, so mean. A 1-star rating isn't me not wanting to drive this person again, it's me not wanting any driver, anywhere, to drive this person again. Very different rating.)

So... final drive of the day. Ping is the third in a 3-streak Lyft, more north and east than I ever want to be, with a 15-minute drive to go get them. Well, it's been a bad weekend filled with inefficient work, so this is just on brand. Get it done.

I roll up to my people (pair, man and woman) and at least they are waiting for me... and wow, they've had a day. There's a certain smell that drunk people have, a sickly fruity one, and it often accurately predicts someone having a nausea event later. The ride is also south (small blessing), but also west (dammit), it's going to be 25 miles and 30+ minutes, and here we go.

My passengers decide to argue about, honestly, the dumbest things imaginable. They also argue about everything, and about five minutes into the ride, the woman begins hiccupping. A lot, while continuing to speak constantly, and experience also tells me that's not a great sign for avoiding the Nausea Event. I ask her if she's going to be OK, she assures me (in the repeating way that very drunk people do, because they can't remember the things they've already said) that she's going to be fine, and yeah. I drive a little faster because this mission now seems like it's got a time element. Also, because I really can't wait to get them, their argument, and their odor out of my car.

As we get closer to the drop, the argument devolves into multi-lingual skills. It turns out that both of them have reason in their lives to know other languages, but not to the point of having native fluency. Leading the man to assert that he can read something in another language, but that he's not going to be able to understand it. (Roll that around in your head for Drunken Philosophy fun.) The woman responds with a similar idiot ship passing in the night point about her experiences in Korean, and that she just doesn't get what dude is saying. They proceed to say the same things to each other with rising levels of irritation for the next five minutes.

At which point my dude decides it's time for back up, and asks me what I think. Since, presumably, I heard the hiccupping from before and am on pins and needles about where the discourse is going next, as opposed to just, you know, listening for sounds of puke.

Calculating to try to get to the least amount of conversation, I hold for a beat, then reply that I'm not from this area, so I'm really just focusing on the road. Which also has the benefit of truth. They seem to accept this answer, tear into each other for the last five minutes, and we get to the drop point.

As they are leaving my car, I'm thinking about the rating. They did the responsible thing and took rideshare while drinking. I'm working at this hour; if I didn't want to deal with drunk people, I could just do this in the mornings (I'm not a morning person). They may just be in a bad relationship and its coloring everything around them. 3-star ratings hurt my business. I could give four and...

My man gets out of the car and thanks me for the ride. He's about to get the 4-star rating when he finishes the evening with "Don't be such a f***ing robot next time." Punctuated with an aggro door slam.

Ah, the information I was looking for! Thank you, sir!

Three stars.

A Different Kind of Cancel Culture: 10 Reasons Why Drivers Cancel Rides

I may also play Steely Dan

I've had this conversation dozens of times during my time as a rideshare driver.

The passenger gets in the car, listens to me confirm the address and amenities, and then launches into a tirade about how their last driver did such and such. Usually involving canceling the ride.

And while it's rarely, if ever, in my interest to be confrontational or defend some other driver that may or may not be defensible... 

The fact of the matter is that I am 100% certain that I've inspired this same conversation for other drivers. 

So, here's why it happens.

1) You didn't value the driver's time. Rideshare drivers make about 3X as much money for moving as we do for waiting. No rideshare driver wants to wait. For anything. Ever.

2) Other passengers do value the driver's time. We know the way the app works -- how the map shows the car going to your location, how reminders and alerts pop up, etc. Depending on the day and area, passengers are ready and waiting for us, to the point of not having to worry about parking, annoying other drivers, or running afoul of police attention. 

So we know passengers can do better. Those that don't are making a choice not to. And ideally, we would spend our time as efficiently as possible, for people that allow us to do that.

3) A cancel may save the driver from future drama. The passenger that's using the full clock and beyond to get in the car often has other things going on in their life that will spill over into this transaction. Whether or not the driver has time for that is highly variable.

The only real drawback of this is when the ap pings you with the person you just canceled. That's not exactly a comfortable moment. If I had the ability to 3-star a passenger and prevent the next attempt at the ride that didn't happen, I totally would. As is, they more often than not get 3 stars at the end of the re-started ride anyway.

4) The ap told us to. Especially in the middle of a long shift, it's far easier to press the button the second it lets you, rather than extend more courtesy to people who have already exhausted the legal limit. Many drivers are just going to do what the ap tells them to, especially if they are preoccupied with other thoughts (and well, that can happen). 

5) There's a better price on another app. Seven out of ten drivers are on more than one platform, and there's often a better deal brewing somewhere else. Canceling a slow passenger and going to the other platform may also help us avoid getting the slow passenger again.

6) People who make you wait do not tip any more than people that do not. You might think this isn't the case, and that you are totally going to tip the driver for putting them out like this... but, well, passengers who make the driver wait are already breaking the social contract. Expecting them to make up for it is not where, frankly, the data lies.

7) We've got a rides completion bonus to make, and tardy pickups aren't helping. Rideshare platforms routinely gives drivers a Quest number to make before a certain deadline. As we don't control how many requests we get, nor how far they are going or how long they might take, getting to the next passenger who isn't dawdling may be in our strong personal interest.

8) Your area isn't a comfortable place to wait. Rideshare drivers are a little bit like any worker in a hazardous occupation; our first goal is to get home safe, and everything else is secondary. If your area is tight with traffic, heavy with police presence, or puts as at risk of being accosted by people with life challenges... we're getting out of Dodge at the first moment we can. You probably would too.

9) Your rating (or destination) is telling us not to wait. I don't generally pay a lot of attention to a passenger's rating when I accept a ride. I've got about 10-15 seconds to do that, looking at the screen while driving is not terribly safe, and for all I know, you've been the victim of a single unreliable driver. I can always 3-star a passenger at the completion of the ride, and bad fares make for better stories (and grist for this blog!) later. Nearly everyone gets the first ride.

But when I'm sitting for time with nothing else to do while a passenger isn't getting in the car? Well, howdy, I'm checking your rating, Or thinking about how nice it would be to not have to go to your remote destination that isn't likely to make for a good period of my day's earnings.

10) We're making it better for the next driver. Want to know the commonality of everyone who gets in my car after a previous driver canceled on them? They all got there before the clock ran out. Funny coincidence, yes?